What if one day you saw a dragon flying overhead? Wings spread wide, scales glinting in the sunshine, and flames erupting from his maw – a real, live dragon. Would you say “that is a dragon”? I doubt it. Your mind would struggle to make sense out of the non-sense being fed to it by your eyes. Because your brain “knows” that dragons only exist in fairy tales and J.R.R. Tolkein stories. If we do not believe it is possible we won’t recognize it when it is right before our eyes.

It is a common dissync that what we believe is possible doesn’t allow us the opportunity to live our dream. Things like “I’m not smart enough” or “I’m not creative” or “I’m too old”.

Sync it up in your head - Ask yourself “what if that were possible?” It’s called “suspending disbelief” – we do it when we read books or see movies about dragons for instance. We don’t believe that dragons fly our friendly skies along with the jets and the geese, but we are willing to believe in dragons in the context of the story.

So this is your story. What do you need to see in order to create your happy ending? What belief is keeping you from seeing what is right before your eyes? What possibilities might exist that you can’t see because you do not believe they are possible for you? If you don’t believe in dragons you will never see a dragon.

Sync it up in your life – Know what possibilities or opportunities you’d like to see. Use techniques like vision boards or written goals to keep them right in front of you all the time. Be willing to say things such as “the opportunity exists for me to use my skills, experience and abilities to the greater good of mankind and make a good living while doing it.” And when the “yeah buts” raise their heads you’ll start to understand why you have never seen opportunities to realize that dream – the “yeah buts” are the belief systems that tell you that you are seeing geese when in fact you’re looking at a dragon.

You can prove yourself right, that is easy to do, just keep ignoring all those opportunities. Or you can admit that dragons do exist in your world. As each “yeah but” comes to the surface keep asking “but what would I do if I were smart enough, or young enough, or…” then go do it. Best-selling author (Endless Referrals and The Go-Giver) Bob Burg calls it “act as if” – behaving as though something were already true. Knowing how you would behave or what action you would take and then “acting as if” it were true will open windows and doors to possibilities you would have never glimpsed before.

That’s right - “Here there be dragons”

How many of your “I wish I hads” have you added to your “but it’s too late now” list?

What a bitter dissync that can be when you convince yourself that your possibilities have been limited by the passage of time.

Sync it up in your head – make a list of your “I wish I hads” and rank them 1-5 with the 1s being the things you most regret not having done.  Now ask yourself “why” – why did you want to do that, how would it make you feel to have done it, what would doing it have added to your life? Now ask yourself “why not” – what is holding you back, is there another way to achieve that same feeling or that same outcome?

Sync it up in your life – pick one thing from the list, we all have to start somewhere. Attack it your way – you might make a plan, you might do some research, you might sketch it out and you might just jump in the pool (if you want to know what is most natural for you email us at coaching@puresynchrony.com and we’ll tell you how you can use the Kolbe assessment to find out.) The important thing is that you decide what you aren’t ready to give up on, what motivates and inspires you, and go make it happen!

It is never too late to put your creativity to work – today is a good day to begin!